07 Haz How is Your Likeability?
I like Karen Keller, Ph.D Infulencial index. As per her research “Likeability” is one of the 7 traits of influencial index. The others are
The others are;
I want to share below my extracts from her teaching.
Although “likeability” is thought by y-generation as how many likes you take on your facebook page, how popular you are, how many follower you are on twitter; actually “likeability” in business, shows us how valuable, meaningful product and customer service you provide, how effective you are in inter-personal relationships, so you will get better business and result.
“Likeability” is a measure how positively you are seen by another person. It is also one of the very important factor which is ignored to be “successful” and “happy”.
“When I left the dining room after sitting next to Mr. Gladstone, I thought he was the cleverest man in England. But after sitting next to Mr. Disraeli, I thought I was the cleverest woman in England.”
— A women when asked her impression of the two English statesmen Benjamin Disraeli and William Gladstone after dining with them.
Here are the top five list which make you more likable;
1- Be respectful for everyone; we tend to see us respectful to others, but if we have disagreements or if we are busy with thoughts or bias, are we still respectful to others? we do not focus on our behaviour, because or mind so busy to focus on other person behaviour. Being respectful when you
Being respectful when you are disagree with a person sometimes very challenging but it can be conquered. When you show respect you will improve your empathy and it gives you broadening your perspective towards others. You can see from other person’s shoes and you will get along better, even you will get more respect from that person.
2- Be authentic, if you show and communicate with your real,genuine skills, you will get better result in long run.
“As we are liberated by our own fears, our presence automatically liberates others.” – Marianne Williamson
3- Willingness to be wrong, it is important to know that saying “I am sorry”or saying “I made a mistake”. This make you more human and people love human. Human make mistakes. It is not an easy practice to admit mistakes or genuine feelings but get over your fear of being vulnerable, practice it.
Sharing your vulnerability creates sympathy and connection and patience also forgiveness.
4- Listen, truly listen what is said, what is not being said. Pay attention what is going on other person. People like to be seen. Again this creates connections. Very few people are very good at listening. Be a good listener your relationships get richer.
5- Laugh- don’t let day to day stress not let you to see big picture and missing what is really important. Researches show laughter increase learning and memory and getting better result in exams.
So if you want to be likeable, help people to get positive outcome with joy, laughter, ease and with genuine feelings.
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